Spiritual Estheticss

Official Closing Statement 🐇 Tricks Are for Kids, Silly Rabbit 🥕 I fell for it again — the carrot, the compliments, the “we see your brilliance” speech. They knew what to say. And I — with my shiny work ethic and healed inner child — took the bait. They asked for everything. And I gave it: time, energy, strategy, ganas. But here’s the plot twist: there was no pie 🥧. Just crumbs. I wasn’t dumb. I was just raised to people-please. And this world? It feeds on that. 🥕 I Was Trained to Be Eager Some of us weren’t raised to play the game — we were raised to be helpful. We learned how to anticipate needs, impress others, prove we belonged. So when someone dangles validation or opportunity in front of us, we sprint. Even if it’s a setup. Even if it’s a trick. Because somewhere deep down, we still think maybe this time, we’ll earn o...

⚠️ Modern Weasel Words: Let’s Call Them Out — With Amor We've all done it. 💭 Us too. When we’re scared, tired, or trying to stay “nice,” it’s easy to slide into soft language — palabras suaves — that dance around the truth instead of naming it. But the cost? Disconnection, confusion, and emotional fog. ☁️ Below are the modern-day weasel moves — dressed up in new outfits, but still avoiding the heart of the matter. 🤐 Filter-speak — Filtro emocional: Talking in polished quotes, but never saying how we *really* feel. Often sounds like: “I’m sending you love,” instead of, “I’m hurt and not ready to talk yet.” 🥗 Word salad — Ensalada de palabras: Jumbled, abstract, overthought explanations that make us feel “off,” but we can’t quite say why. 🔄 Spin language — Giro verbal: Reframing something harmful as “a growth opportunity” or “divine timing” to avoid accountability — a.k.a. gaslighting lite. ...

🌱 Micro Honesty™ How One Percent of Truth Can Change Everything As an esthetics instructor , I care deeply about who’s working on your cara and cuerpo (face and body). Aesthetic work is intimate. So if an aesthetician can’t speak up and say, “From a professional standpoint, esto (this) is what’s best for you,” then things can go terribly wrong — not just with the skin, but with self-trust. 🧖🏽‍♀️💬🪷 Example? When a client walks in with inflamed breakouts and visible pus activity, I gently ask: “Have you been allergy tested?” Many times, they return weeks later shocked — allergic to cats, strawberries, dairy, stress… or all of the above. 🌿🤧🧃 That’s what Micro Honesty™ gets us. It gets to the raíz — the root cause. It listens to the message your body is desperately trying to send. 💌👂🏽✨ And in Spiritual Estheticss™ , it’s the same. My spirit had been whispering for years: “You’re allergic to that person. You’re allergic to that energy. You’re all...

✨ Emotional Permission Slips: Part Two ✨ For those of us raised in households without boundaries, emotional language, or examples of nonviolent love. 🇵🇷 Part 1 recap: I said goodbye to the “Gettcha God,” hello to Dhamma, and started rewriting my scripts— con cariño (with love), for me and for the next gen. Some of my first real permission slips were silent. 🧘🏽‍♀️ No big announcements. Just soft, inner decisions. Like: “I can say I don’t know without shame.” “I don’t have to explain my tears, mi dolor (my pain), or why I left early.” “I can exit a conversation when my nervous system is saying: Run, girl.” “I can pause instead of people-pleasing.” “I don’t have to shrink for nobody. Nadie (nobody).” That’s a big one. Because shrinking was a survival strategy. 🙃 Especially when you were told, directly or indirectly: “Don’t be too loud. Don’t be too proud. Don’t make people uncomfortable.” And baby, I listened. Until I didn’t. Until I asked myse...

💥 The Buck Stops With Me™ I went to the silent retreat to disappear. Three months. That was the plan. A holy hideout. I’ve done it before—sit, serve, vanish. A “good girl” disappearance. Respectable avoidance. Maybe even spiritual-sounding. Pero this time? Life had other plans. 🧃 I lasted one month. Not because I failed— but because I finally stopped betraying myself. 🫱🏽💔 I went to tend to the girl who got pregnant at 16 , became a mami at 17 , and was told by the church: “That baby is a bastard. God is mad. Your body is broken.” Her name is: I’ll Show You™. 🔥💄 She’s the one who overachieved while bleeding. Smiled with swollen eyes. Handed out forgiveness like pan sobao. Held back tears in the diaper aisle. 🛒🍼 This month was for her . And when the kitchen drama exploded—yo, I was out . The manager came in like a tormenta. Loud. Controlling. Disrespectful. 🚫 I tried. I got up at 4am. Washed the pots. Ate outside to stay grounded. 🧽🥴🌿 But my body said...

Transactional Relationships™ Interpersonal Relationships™ Based on exchanges or benefits Based on emotional connection and mutual care Short-term or situational Long-term and evolving Motivated by “what can I get?” Motivated by “how can we grow together?” Conditional — tied to performance or outcome Unconditional — not dependent on benefits Often impersonal and formal Personal, warm, and authentic Ends when the transaction ends Continues regardless of immediate utility Roles and titles define interaction Individuals matter more than roles Efficiency and output are prioritized Empathy and understanding are prioritized Feedback may be limited or one-sided Open, two-way communication Power dynamics are often present Built on ...